Long story, set back and grab a cold one.
My wife went on vacation with the kids and her family for three weeks. I didn't go because I had to work. So, this is during Cheyenne Frontier Days. (It's like the mardi gras for the west) I go partying with my best friend and his girlfriend. My buddy gets hammered because he was on pain killers and beer. (He got hurt in the rodeo that day and spent 4 hrs in the ER) So, I take him home and ask his girlfriend if she was ready. She says her friends will take her home. (She's hammered too) So, I take my buddy to his girlfriends house and he passes out. I get a call about 2:30 from girlfriend, she's drunk and alone as her friends left her there. So, being the good friend I am, I go pick her up and take her to her house. She is way plastered, so she sits next to me in my truck so I can hold her up so she don't puke in my new truck. I get her to her house, wake up my buddy and carry her to her bed. Then I left and stayed at my buddies house that night. So, I tell my wife all about it the next time I talk to her and she "seems" ok. I thought she knew that I did it as a friend. Not a deviant. So, tonight she thinks about it I guess and blows up. She thinks I was wrong and did something against our marriage. What's the deal????

 

Ahh yes, the insane and irrational jealousy your female significant other will unleash upon you without provocation or notice. And yet the man has no reason to be jealous when she acts "too friendly" with other guys...

I, and I'm sure others, could bore readers with similar tales. I've learned that the best way for me to deal with it is to try to get her to explain her issue without either of you blowing up and without telling her she's wrong. Basically you need to make her examine it hard enough on her own that she realizes that its a foolish problem. If she doesnt come to this realization on her own your best argument will fall on deaf ears. The best way to prove a woman wrong is to let her do it herself.

Just my thoughts on the subject, take em or leave em. I would have done the same thing in your case and I think any decent man would have as well. Hope things smooth over soon for you.

 

What happens at Frontier days, stays at Frontier days !!! Give her time, she will realize she was jumping to conclusions and apologize. Or she should anyways...[img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif[/img]

 

10-4 on CFD. There seems to be a lot of this going around lately.

 

Well of course she's nucking futs, she just spent 3 weeks with her family and the kids!!!! I'm just amazed everyone survived. Give her some time, she's probably so keyed up from that "vacation" that she just needs someone to take her frustrations out on. Let her smack you around for a few days and I bet she'll feel better. Now I'm not saying it's right, but it's the way it is, it's easier to go with it than to fight it. And next time, leave out the sitting next to you and holding her up part, that's what killed you.

Three weeks, damn, I'd have been throwing stuff at my husband from the moment I walked in the door and made up the "reason" later, if I remembered to.

 

To much info sometimes is a bad thing....making her think you are pulling a fast one. Example of how to handle situation: Ring...yea honey, my bud and his gf stayed at her house and I stayed at my buddys house, to watch his dog or some kind of bs cause I know dam well she called home multiple times and wonders why you did'nt come home. You gotta cover those bases so everyone has that warm and fuzzy feeling.
Gary

 

I think you want Dr. Phil, not the forum.