the little shaft in the center of the clutch plate(release bearing) has alot of play side to side just seems real loose is this right or do i need a new one

 

Are you referring to the actuator shaft with the teeth on it? If you look on the backside of your clutch cover you will see where the end of it inserts into the cover allowing it to slide back and forth without having any side to side play once it is assembled. With the clutch cover off it is going to have play.