I agree with all of the above, and Knowing you know your intentions are good. Call me if needed man

 

Scatterbrain your a good man to put aside the past and help her in a time of need. Bet your ex is kickin herself in the *** for causing such a good guy as yourself the grief.. got a chuckle outta your GF thinkin your exwife was naked.. What she think you never seen it before [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif[/img] LMAO.. Its always amazing how petty women can be in these sitations.

 

There is no easy answer in that one. Seems to me, if you do one thing, you'll **** off one woman and if you do the other thing, you'll **** off the other woman. All I can say is .... WOMEN!@!@!@!a

I say do what you think is right, and let the chips fall where they may. Also be considerate of others feelings. But in my book, physical always tops emotional. If you can do both, then great.

 

The GF has to understand that there are roots and a bond there with the ex being the mother of your son. Better to give her help so that she can tend to the raising of your child than being down and out and not able to adequately provide. No matter how much drama and BS was involved between the two of you, you still have to do what is right for the boy. If the current squeeze doesn't understand that then maybe she ain't right for you.

Go with your heart and you can't go wrong. Good luck with it all. We're her for you.

 

Now thats just good karma bro. Good for you. The world needs a little compasion now and again. You son will learn a valuable lesson from this situation as well.

 

MAJOR NAILED IT RIGHT ON THE HEAD

 

If the girlfriend thinks that the ex is doing this as a stunt to get you back I would say that is completely insame. I dont know of anyone that would go about breaking there back as a stunt to get something or someone. Sounds to me like she is very insecure and needs to look at the big picture.

I let my wife read your post and she said that your girlfriend should see you as being a "really good catch" a careing, kind person.



Good Luck

 

You the man scatterbrain.Got to help others you never know when you
might need in return.I like the idea of dragging the GF along to see what
you are doing.

 

My experience is that a women (wife/GF) will ALWAYS believe a wino off the street before they will believe someone with a vested interest in their well being.

Because of that, you might try enlisting someone your GF trusts, a third party - her brother perhaps. Ask that person to come along (no way your ex will want current GF in "her" house) under the pretense of helping or for advice. The GF will hear back about it, hopefully in a positive way. After that happens, sit down with GF and tell her why you took her friend over - to show her the entire thing is about your son and helping his mother, your son's care giver and it's all above board. If, after doing that and being "up front" with GF, you still don't have a "warm fuzzy" about where you and GF are going with this, well it's time for some tough love. You've given her a chance to act like an adult and your most important function at the moment is being a father.

 

Scatter...how would your son feel if you didn't help your ex..his mother. Try to get the girlfriend to understand that by you helping out, your actually helping take care of your son. I'm sure your a great dad, so by you helping its doing some good for your son thru a tough time in his life.

Never forget the kids...your doing the right thing! Good Luck!