hey that is a tuff one man, i had the same thing just 18 months ago. i helped my ex thru a broken ankle and surgery. the girlfriend is right to want you, but it's the 5 year old son that you have to be concerned about here, that is his mother, and assuming things are about the same as other 5 year olds there isn't much that is more inportant than his mom, so when she falls or is in a bad way, it will scare him really bad. so if you are able to protect your 5 year old son, or at least his feelings go all out. it's not really about another woman it's about your son. hope that helps.

 

Wow, not much more to add to this I guess...it's pretty much all been said. You are the man Scatterbrain! I hope I never find myself in your situation but if I do I'll be doing EXACTLY what you are doing. My kids will always come first and as such I will always look out for their mom...be it we are married or divorced...PERIOD.

I also agree with ANNIHILATER 100%. Let your GF be involved too and maybe she won't feel left out.

 

I would do the same thing you are doing. Ask your GF to go with you, but I doubt she will.

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Thanks to all for replying to this. Im going to stay the course on this one. GF and I have talked a little more and I think maybe once she's cooled off and thought about it a little she will see the real motive. She's really insecure about the whole thing. My boy is the most important thing in my life and anything that effects the ex effects him. He's had a tough time with the whole divorce thing. I think its good he sees me taking care of business and doing what needs to be done. Maybe later in life he will make a difference in someones life. My ex is a good, hard working woman that gives people way more than she receives. Im going to do whatever it takes to get her up and running again. GF is just going to have to trust me on this one. If she dont she wasnt for me anyway. I agree with Marky "women"

Thank you very much for the support on this one guys. I didnt think It was wrong to do what I knew was right. I just wanted to check myself. I feel alot better about it now. Nice to know who your friends are. You guys rock!

Keith

 

Dingo nailed this one. This is the mother of your child. He will learn how to treat a woman, by the way his father treats his mother. If your girlfriend can't see how compassionate you are through your sons eyes. It might be time to re-evaluate her importance in your life.

 

just keep the girl friend informed, it will be a pain i know but it would be the right thing to do. keep your focus on your son, the past can be confusing when it comes to these situations the ex might want to lean on you afterwards. if it helps i paid the head doctor a lot to figure this stuff out, and if things get to ruff i'd suggest going to see one. i resisted going after lots of advise to go, i should have went sooner.

 

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I hate to hear stuff like this. I am sorry you have to deal with this Keith. My cynical mind see's this as an opportunity to test your current GF. I vowed something to the effect of "for better or for worse" when I got married. Even though this situation totally sucks, you might get a chance to see what your GF is made of and if it turns out to be not good stuff, the only thing worse than an Ex-wife is two of them................Sometimes we get a glimpse of the future...............

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Scatterbrain, I wish that more people in the world had the admirable qualities that you have.

As far as the g/f goes, just have her read your original post (without editing it!). That sums everything up conciseivly with honesty, and respect for everyone.

Good Wishes to You!

 

Well it came to a head again tonight. I finally had to give her the boot. Im really bummed about it, I thought I knew her pretty good but I guess the honeymoon is over. Get this, Kid called, said he was hungry and wanted to me to come and make him some dinnner. Of course I said yes, mom is in bad shape and there a lull in people able to stay with her. GF was there and said " Why dont you just drop off some McDonalds?" Then lauched into the same crap she did the other night. I thought we had it worked out. Like Waylon Jennings said "Wrong, I should have known it all along" The part that really p!ssed me off was when she asked me what I would do when the Ex lost her job over this. I said help the best I can, Whatever it takes to get her goin again. Well long story short, she went sideways on me. I finally told her I was done and I thought she was mean spirtited and selfish. Too bad Ive had a really good time for the most part this last year. But im not going to back up on this deal for nothin. You guys were kind enough to help me on this out on this one, I thought I would let you know how it turned out . Thanks again

Scatter