Im really not much for discussing this kind of stuff openly but this seemed like something I could use a couple opinions on. Here goes.

My ex-wife has been hurt really bad in an accident and has broken her back. We have a 5yr old son together. Our divorce was final just a few days ago and it was a bit ugly, not as bad as some but not exactly easy. I put all the BS aside and have dug in to help. She cant move and needs as much help as possible. So ive been over there takin care of the boy and the dogs, moving furniture, running errands and whatnot. Theres really no one else she could rely on for that kind of stuff. So im doing it. She's a bit hard headed and keep wanting to get up and do stuff. so she went in to take a shower fell (with a broken back) hit her head the whole nine yards. Her mom was there and called me cause she couldnt get her out of the tub. I went and took care of it, got her back into her brace and into bed. Heres the problem, My girlfriend of about a year is P.O.ed at me because Im helping her and absolutley furious that I helped her out of the shower. I guess because she thought she was naked, which she wasnt, her mom got her into her robe. She doesnt think I should be stoppin by there and helping her at all. Now if it involves my boy thats OK but if its just making her more comfortable she's totally against it. Ive tried to explain things to her but she thinks that my wife is trying to pull some sort of stunt to get me back. Which is stupid because she just divorced me! I think she being irrational, childish and selfish and have told her that. I know in my heart that helping her is the right thing to do. I really dig the girlfriend but if this keeps up Im not sure what to do. Its coming down to me having to make a choice between helping a friend and keeping my girlfriend. If was me that was hurt I would bet my last dollar that the ex would be there to help me. What do you guys think?

 

your right on the money!- helping people is what life is all about, tell your GF to grow up or she gets the boot!

 

I agree with Major, I think your doing the right thing.....continue on...If the GF bails on somthing like this she may just bail later down the road for some other reason.

Tom

 

I agree with Major, and also think of the lesson you are teaching your son, no matter what happens life you are not above helping some one in need. He will look back on this part of his life and you will be his hero.

Stick with it, and tell the girl friend if she can't handle an adult situation, she should consider getting out of the situation.

 

Id have the Girlfriend go with you and help you with the ex. jmo, Might make the gf feel more secure and the ex can deal with it.


btw- I hope the ex wife has a speedy recovery most importantly.

 

As the son of one of these situations, keep helping. My parents were divorced while I was still in high school. I lived with my dad who was divorced with my mom, but she is not right to take care of herself sometimes it seems. Bad with money and decisions really and my dad has helped her. It has taught me a lot about no matter what, no matter how badly someone treats you, you can always help them and give them forgiveness. Isn't that what the Lord teaches? Keep up the good work, but don't get reattached like my father did. [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]

 

Im divorced also and had gone though the girlfriend getting ticked off about the Ex thing, What the G/F needs to unstand that you spent part of your life with the other person and dosent mean your going for Ex sex, and the fact that you and your Ex are willing to put aside your difference is great for raising your 5 year old son.
The fun part about starting over is just take your time and be picky its not your life it yours and your son.


P.S. I get along with my ex like water and oil.......I can alway tell when my Ex is near....... the flying monkeys circle above her. [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-shocked.gif[/img]

Hey I could have been worse! like I miss my Ex...............................But my aim is getting better![img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]

 

If your GF gets that upset then she is not your soulmate. ANNIHILATER makes a very good suggestion it would be a good test to see what the GF intentions really are. If she doesn't realize how important your son is to you than give her the boot. The safe health and welfare of your son depends on the shape of your ex-wife, now if your ex-wife was a crack head youd be there day and night to protect your son there is not alot of difference between the 2 situations. Your son comes first and formost, would the GF bÏt¢h and complain for you going there if the ex was a crack head? Kinda makes you wonder huh? Time to sit the GF down for a long chat and see where her head is at. Good Luck man I know you will get it right. =]

 

Good people like Scatterbrain, are rare these days.

I have much respect for you!!!!!!!!!

 

i would have left her in the tub to rott.......just kidding. i had to break all touchy feely stuff up. but anyway, all these guys are right. you are doing the right thing. give your gf some time to adjust to it and if she still does not cool off over all this than she has gotta go.. tell her to remember that this woman is the mother of your child and that is a bond between you and her that cant be broke by anyone........... well, maybe carmen electra!!!!!!kidding