Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
#51
01-17-2004, 01:10 AM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
Originally posted by: UBETRUN
Since I was the only one that posted something about separate checking accounts, I've got to assume that you are looking down your nose at me. My wife and I are extremely happy with our financial arrangement and have been that way for the last 12 years. In previous marriages, we both tried doing it the normal way, "what's yours is mine and what's mine is yours." Personally, I think that fairy tale was invented by some housewife that didn't have any of her own money. We both prefer "his, hers, and ours." The best spouse is the one that doesn't need you for anything, they just stick around because they enjoy your company.
Originally posted by: ShadyRascal
If you aren't a team, if you're hiding money from each other, and keeping separate accounts, that's not a marriage its an arrangement. I've seen those arrangements go down in flames a lot.When we are going to purchase something major, we talk about it. Our finances are important, and we make logical decisions. That's why we have toys, no debts, and a pile in the bank.If you aren't together chasing the same dream don't be together.
If you aren't a team, if you're hiding money from each other, and keeping separate accounts, that's not a marriage its an arrangement. I've seen those arrangements go down in flames a lot.When we are going to purchase something major, we talk about it. Our finances are important, and we make logical decisions. That's why we have toys, no debts, and a pile in the bank.If you aren't together chasing the same dream don't be together.
In the end, the only thing I missed from her was her dishwashing ability - so I bought a Maytag and have been fine ever since. That dishwasher not only scrubs, cleans and disposes, it sanitizes every dish! What a wonder of technology!
#52
01-17-2004, 03:01 AM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
ok guys I tried the check book thing and didn't tell her she went bolistic and said I had a girl on the side I like the arrangment but she didn't they are all control freaks....but we love them [img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif[/img]
#53
01-17-2004, 11:12 PM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
Originally posted by: KGB
Small lesson: "It's easier to ask for forgivness, than ask for permission"
Iron, maybe you are the sucker who got suckered into marring the WRONG woman!.....[img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]
Small lesson: "It's easier to ask for forgivness, than ask for permission"
Iron, maybe you are the sucker who got suckered into marring the WRONG woman!.....[img]i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif[/img]
Exactly I just buy and answer questions later.
#55
01-18-2004, 02:23 AM
#57
01-18-2004, 02:36 AM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
Originally posted by: UBETRUN
Since I was the only one that posted something about separate checking accounts, I've got to assume that you are looking down your nose at me. My wife and I are extremely happy with our financial arrangement and have been that way for the last 12 years. In previous marriages, we both tried doing it the normal way, "what's yours is mine and what's mine is yours." Personally, I think that fairy tale was invented by some housewife that didn't have any of her own money. We both prefer "his, hers, and ours." The best spouse is the one that doesn't need you for anything, they just stick around because they enjoy your company.
Originally posted by: ShadyRascal
If you aren't a team, if you're hiding money from each other, and keeping separate accounts, that's not a marriage its an arrangement. I've seen those arrangements go down in flames a lot.When we are going to purchase something major, we talk about it. Our finances are important, and we make logical decisions. That's why we have toys, no debts, and a pile in the bank.If you aren't together chasing the same dream don't be together.
If you aren't a team, if you're hiding money from each other, and keeping separate accounts, that's not a marriage its an arrangement. I've seen those arrangements go down in flames a lot.When we are going to purchase something major, we talk about it. Our finances are important, and we make logical decisions. That's why we have toys, no debts, and a pile in the bank.If you aren't together chasing the same dream don't be together.
There's a difference between a marriage and an arrangement, I'll stand by that statement. I will however modify my separate accounts statement; If it's agreed that both parties keep their play money there, no problem.
#58
01-18-2004, 02:42 AM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
hey everyone is different if a guy has to hide his account thats him that doesn't mean he loves his wife less it means he doesn't like conflicts and I am with such a person. I would and did the same but I love my wife and we have great communation, put it this way what if her best friend hit on you would you run and tell her or just let it ride and forget it knowing it would cost more headache telling her? well sometimes it's better just let things go and it better that way it doen't make you less of a man.
#59
01-18-2004, 02:47 AM
#60
01-18-2004, 02:47 AM
Do you need permission from your wife to buy toys?
Originally posted by: huskerjim
hey everyone is different if a guy has to hide his account thats him that doesn't mean he loves his wife less it means he doesn't like conflicts and I am with such a person. I would and did the same but I love my wife and we have great communation, put it this way what if her best friend hit on you would you run and tell her or just let it ride and forget it knowing it would cost more headache telling her? well sometimes it's better just let things go and it better that way it doen't make you less of a man.
hey everyone is different if a guy has to hide his account thats him that doesn't mean he loves his wife less it means he doesn't like conflicts and I am with such a person. I would and did the same but I love my wife and we have great communation, put it this way what if her best friend hit on you would you run and tell her or just let it ride and forget it knowing it would cost more headache telling her? well sometimes it's better just let things go and it better that way it doen't make you less of a man.