Sorry to hear. Stay strong. Be there for those kids, they are probably more shocked by the divorce than you.

Only have one life to live. It's already too short. Do what you gotta do. Good luck

 

alright oregondunepatrol i really don't appreciate how u turned some of my words around and you defantly didn't even get the point of my 1st post that wasn't not even directed towards u. but if u persist to keep this conversation going then pm me otherwise don't respond to what anyone else says besides w1gnut because others specially w1ngut doesn't need it. Its obvious u can't really accept other people opinions i mean u did the same to demonds too. Just respect other ppl opinions.

Like another said don't highjack this post. If you wanna post direct it towards w1gnut like everyone else is doing.

 

Actually, I think what you said about the kids is right on. Sorry we cant connect on the other issue.

As far as DemonDS, He's probably one of my most trusted friends. He knows we dont agree on everything, but in our friendship, it simply does not matter - thats a fact. You are right, everyone has perspectives due to thier experiences. I probably did come down a little hard on you - sorry about that. But I tried to correct that. I'm sure you would agree with me, about what I have already said, Wingnut will take these experiences we have all had, inlcuding yours, and choose what works for him in the end. I dont expect everyone to agree with me - because every situation is different. Your experience regarding how it feels if your a kid is something that very few probably have on this thread. My experience, being a father, is different than yours. We got different perspectives, thats not nessesarily a bad thing - especially when it comes to wingnut.

I'm also not trying to turn what you said around, simply stating how it could be taken, especially to someone thats in a position as his. Like most everyone on this thread, they actually have very good intentions.

 

My condolences....just keep your head up. You never know.

 

I feel sorry for ya w1ngnut. Be strong, there is life afterwards no matter what happens.

Being maried is the toughest job Ive ever had in my life.....

JJP

 

Craig,

Your a great guy and I was glad you caught my attention over the weekend (I have no idea why I decided to ride through camp) anyhow it was great to chat with you and I wish you all the best. I know from hanging out with you that you are a good guy so you will come through. Like everyone else - if you need anything just ask - we'll have to drag you out to Dumont & get your mind off of this subject and back where it should be - lost between your quad and the sand.

 

Christ Almighty!
Some of ya'll just need to chill. The whole point is to help a Brother in need and offer words of encouragement and let him know that we are here to listen, at the least. Some as casual visitors and some as dear friends as I think has been shown.
If you don't particularily agree with what someone else said keep it between the two of you elsewhere. Maybe what you're not agreeing with may be just the thing that w1ngnut needed to hear to apply to his situation and help him get through another day.

C'aint we all just get along???

Just two more cents worth of mine from a former EEO advisor in the Marine Corps. Got paid to help those with different backgrounds and ideals get along.
Everybody breathe now. See, it's alright.

For real though, it's starting to get off track and stray from it's intended purpose.

 

aceisback,

Copy that.

Chris,

Excellent idea!

Marky

 

Hi again guys! Ok, let me say some words here! Guys, this has been very thereputic for me!!!!Now, lets stay on corse please! With that being said, I would like this thread to go on as long as it can because it helps me. This really helps because all of you here have no connection to my wife. Almost everyone in town is connected to both of us so it makes it hard. I feel that I can't disclose to much to "our"friends because I don't know who will run back to her. We all know that people can get greedy and keniving in these situations. I met with the shrink last night, I might look for a new one i didn't really think my kids will be able to open up to her.(she's kind of a scary old lady).....lolol I had dinner with my wife after to go over our lists and want's. It wen't pretty well. She finally showed some emotion which helped me because I've been crying since she told me. I told her exactly how I felt, I appologized profusely . I told her I forgive her for the affair. I begged her. I also told her that I would take her home, pack up everything we have and just get out of here. I feel her job and this town are just not good for us.......no response. At least I know in my heart that I have told her exactlly how I feel. She has just hit a point were she is confused and feels that this will make it better.I realize that this is only my side of the story. You all have to know that by no means am I a perfect man. She told me many things that drove her from me, why she didn't do this sooner, I will never know. We have to go to a class in the morning called cope. Its a mandatory class that divorcy's have to take when kids are involved. I'm looking forward to it so I can hopefully get some good ideas and thoughts on what the life after will be like. One thing that bothers me is it seems as if she is still trying to control me. She want's me to stay as close as possible to her. She still wants us to keep certain things together(cell phones insurance, yadda, yadda) I explained to her that isn't an option. The divorce she wan't means that we have to have our seperate lives with a common bond being that we have kids together. My only priority is my kids. Oh, btw, she hammers me last night that I'm playing the kids against her. They told her that they wan't to live with me when I get my own place. I told her that was the first I heard of that, and honest, it was. I told her that the kids are just upset right now. I also explained that if the kids ever came to me with thoughts of a serious nature I would never go behind her back. Ok, I've rambled enough. Thanks again, I love you all.....p.s. lets make this the longest thread ever,well with the exception of "what's in your garage".............Craig

 

It sounds like your doing as well as can be expected w1ngnut. You and your family are still in my prayers.